Male Broodiness

I've generally assumed, though never had it verified, that there are men out there as desparate to be a parent as I am, I've just never spoken to someone who admitted it, which is why I was fascinated to come across this article

In particular, I love the description: "The only thing I can compare it to is lower back pain: a constant, subcutaneous ache that can be momentarily paralysing".

I was concerned to be reminded of the male timeframe - Husbit is older than I am and used to smoke so as well as my fears over my own fertility (based purely on fear), I worry that by the time he's ready, his sperm will have given up. I know one of the reasons he gives not to have babies is that he doesn't think he could cope if we had a disabled child and, as cruel as it sounds, I applaud his honesty there. The problem is, of coures, the longer we wait the greater the 'risk' in a sense.

I found it sad to be reminded that men feel they can't play with other people's children without being accused of being a paedophile. The song Thou Shalt Always Kill by Dan le Sac vs Scroobius Pip is a song I love anyway, but the line "Thou shalt not think any male over the age of 30 that plays with a child that is not their own is a peadophile, some people are just nice" has especial resonance here. I love to see my Husbit playing with my friend's children, but then it happens so rarely.

He feels that he can't talk about his broodiness without being perceived as less than manly. This is, surely, the same sort of attitude that the feminist movement is about reducing. Also, a man who wants to pass on his genes sounds like an evolutionarily sensible partner (thus very manly) to me!