Something i hear a lot: why don't you get a pet instead?
I would love a pet. I'm always trying to talk the Husbit into letting me have a ferret or a cat or a snake or a guinea pig or something, but he tends to point out the practicalities (he doesn't like snakes, we aren't allowed cats where we are, ferrets and guinea-pigs really require more than a postage stamp garden etc etc).
The point is, though, that i want a pet as well as, not in place of, my children. A pet would (as my herbs currently) give me a bbit of an outlet for my broodiness but they wouldn't solve the issue, nor would i want them too. There are a huge physical aspects to being a mother that i crave - carrying a baby in my womb, breast feeding - that a pet cannot compensate for and that is what people don't seem to accept.
I have a pet. A very affectionate Boarder Collie called Skye. If anything having him has made me long for "family" life even more. Having Skye has been a wonderful distraction. I've thrown myself into training, even putting his certificate up on the wall! But at the end of the day I'm his owner, not his mother and there is a HUGE difference in those two roles.
ReplyDeleteHaving a puppy helped the hubby a huge amount and he feels more ready than he did before (his reasons for not having a baby are more practical), he feels she's given him more patience with dealing with a "being" that doesn't understand him.
ReplyDeleteFor me, it didn't so much help as distract me while we went through house training and teaching her to be a good pup. Now we've settled into everyday life and as Rosslyn says, there is a huge difference between owner and mother and it just doesn't match up
I just saw your recent post on facebook and the first response... I clicked the little X on it and it gives you the option to "Report as abuse..." and I very nearly did! I think if it had been someone I knew I might have done! It made me seethe. Especially as it bore NO relevance to the question you had asked. Sorry, I thought this might be a better place to rant than on fb.
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